Being a youth leader is an experience that some of us may have in the future and an experience that some of us are currently in. My close friend, Darlene Gardner gives some encouragement to current youth leaders and aspiring ones. I hope that you will be encouraged to step out into that place of leadership.
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Let the words of my mouth, and the mediation of my heart, be
acceptable in your sight, Oh Lord, my strength, and, my redeemer.
(Psalms 19:14). To begin, I want to express how grateful and honoured I
am to share from a maturing leader’s point of view and to lead God’s
chosen people into the promise land. Now, in Moses’ day, the task or the
call rather of leading the Israelites was not easy and even with great
courage, I say, leading youths in particular, of this generation into
the promised land is a great mandate and one that demands you as a
leader to live in deep intimacy with God by constantly pursuing Him.
This chapter of my life will be long remembered and I know that my life
is changing, for my best days are here and even though the process is
hot like fire, I continue to be pressed, shaken and beaten but remain
resilient for that is when the gold is most refined.
(http://leaderhelps.com/leadership/)
At the
tender age of 15, I felt like I wanted to know about this Jesus that
everyone in my church was talking about so I went to convert’s classes
and then publicly declared that I want to serve God by being baptized.
Then, at age 18 going on 19, right on my bed, I felt a bearing down or
this constant bubbling deep down on the inside of my stomach, it felt
like something great was being birthed on the inside (spiritual birth)
and I was beginning to understand more what it means to be saved, freed
and redeemed from my sins. I began to develop a genuine first love for
God, a Love that convicts me when I am wrong, a Love that says, “you’re
beautiful even when you can’t see it and a Love that cries out every
day, “I need you Darlene Gardner, I need you to fulfil My purpose here
on earth.” That awakening and that truth that draws you to love God and
desire a change on the inside only come from the Holy Spirit and I thank
God for Holy Spirit.
Moreover, the experience of me being
spiritually pregnant with a word from God (Jeremiah 1:1-17) was one that
was very painful but as I began to release that word and to speak, the
pain reduced a little bit and the atmosphere changed and I felt as
though I’ve accomplished something great, it’s like giving natural birth
to a baby, even though I never did, and during the intensifying pains
of labour, all the mother wants to do is just release and when that baby
finally comes forth, the atmosphere in the room changes and everyone is
astonished by such beautiful creation. I say all of this because this
was just one of many experiences that God gave me in 2011 during my
college years. This was a prime time of my life and I was almost
snatched by the enemy and could have been drawn off- course but God, but
God, but God kept me and used this time of my life to allow me to make a
covenant with Him that I have kept until this day, not to say that I
haven’t made any wrong choices but God convicted me and I was opened to
hear from Him and received His ongoing corrections, strength and wisdom
each day.
After this shocking yet beautiful experience, God said
to my youth leader then, to allow me at age 19 and just starting
undergraduate studies, to lead our youth ministry for only 8-9 months.
Now, this didn’t make much sense at all because normally you have to
lead for an entire year or more and I was getting ready to leave the
country to pursue my studies in lovely Barbados. However, I was obedient
to the call and I led for 8-9 months exactly and God did some awesome wonders
all for His glory. All I can say and will continue to say is that God
is real since I have encountered Him for myself, no one has to drill
that in me because His love became real to me, Darlene Maria Gardner.
In August of 2012, a transition took place and I went to study in Barbados
for 2 years. I was like, “God is this the right turn?” God may not have
answered right away but every day while I was living in Barbados for 2
years, God proved to me that being there was very much so the right turn
at the right time. Yes, in just one second, one minute, one day, 8-9
months, 2 years, God has done some supernatural things in my life but I
had to have had faith in Him. I say to people ever so often that my
experiences in Barbados (BIM BIM) went far beyond obtaining a degree. I
have gained a love and devotion for my God and there is no experience in
this universe that can be compared to that. During those 2 years, God
continued to mould me for the serious call of a youth leader. One that
should never be taken for granted. God used various avenues such as,
immediate family support, great friendships, the family of God - the
Universities and Colleges Christian Fellowship (UCCF), church family and
even some random person walking on the street that I did not know but
God would have sent my way. From 2012-2014, I will summarize those 2
years by using just one word, unforgettable. I thank God for keeping me
through this season of my life because I could not have done it on my
own.
I have shared my own, real experiences with you first
because that is what we overcome by, the blood of the Lamb and the word
of our testimonies. Now, the words that I’m about to share with you are
some of the words that were imparted to me at a Youth Leader’s retreat
and I deem them very fitting to this article.
According to Knight Denise, a Youth Leader must possess five key
characteristics; the first being, he or she must be a Christian that is;
one who loves God and lives in daily connection with Him. The second
characteristic being; he or she should have a servant heart, one that
constantly strives to help others and remain humble. Remember, Christ
did not come to be served but He came to serve, even giving the ultimate
sacrifice, His life (Mark 10:45). Thirdly, a youth leader should have
the capability to lead. When God calls you into Youth ministry, He will
equip you before and during the process. Fourthly, you must be
responsible as a leader and work constantly to keep your youths incline
to the word of God. Lastly, a youth leader should be a positive person,
one who can find the good out of every situation.
(http://www.prescottarealeadership.org/)
Knight continued by saying, a Youth leader should practice these 5 R’s to be effective in ministry. These are as follows:
1. Recharging everyday to the number one (1) source who is God.
2. Reading the word of God and other Christian materials that would increase your knowledge about ministry on a whole.
3.
Relating to your youths by spending quality time with them so you can
build trust. Get to know them not just on the surface but from deep
within.
4. Reaching out constantly to your youths and letting
them understand that God loves them and once they pursue Him, He will
connect to them. A leader should seek to mould disciples who will go out
and disciple others. (Matthew 28:18-20).
5. It is absolutely
necessary for a youth leader to find time to just Relax. You have to
balance and spend time with yourself and God or you will burn out. Allow
God to pour into you so you can intern pour back into others lives.
Don’t take on more than you manage and remember ministry starts at home
so your family comes first and then ministry.
In ending, I can
definitely say that I bless God for all my previous experiences,
however, there is nothing that can be compared to the present. I do hold
fast to the belief that the choices you make today, starts affecting
you even before tomorrow starts because you would have already made that
choice so seek God before you do anything in life or even before you
answer any call to ministry. Develop a strong prayer network of brothers
and sisters in Christ who will help you to pray and call forth your
destiny. I choose to stay humble and keep growing in Christ as I learn
to walk each day and that is something that we as believers should all
seek to do as well.
As I reassume this call of Youth leadership
in 2015, I just give over everything to God because if I try to lead in
my own strength then I’ve failed to try in God’s strength and that’s
when the journey becomes overbearing so I say to you, ask God for His
strength, don’t be afraid of the call, don’t doubt because we are no
longer slaves to fear but just answer the call and ask God for His help,
that will cause you to fulfil that particular calling in your life
purposefully. Just do it!!
Just trust God without borders. I leave you
with two of my favourite scriptures which imply that I should just do
it, whatever it is according to God’s word, Just do it Darlene. The first
scripture is Matthew 6:33(KJV) - But seek ye first the Kingdom of God,
and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. The
second is Ecclesiastes 12:1(KJV) - Remember now thy Creator in the days
of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh,
when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them. Amen!
Thank you for reading. God bless you.
I
extend special Thank you and much love to Trisha Carter who had the
confidence in me to write this article for her blog. God bless you
Trisha my love.